“One cannot thi…

“One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.”
~Virginia Woolf~

There has been a lot going on in my world recently and I couldn’t decide what to write on specifically so I decided to write about today, mainly because it started with food and the camaraderie that comes with eating a good meal with the people that you love. That, and I love food. To tell this story correctly though, I must start with yesterday.

Yesterday I came home from my part time job absolutely spent. I’d had more than a full shift and I didn’t have a single ounce of give a $hit left in my body. I hurt like hell, literally from head to toe. I cried, I cussed, I fussed, and poor Nik (my boyfriend who does more for me than anyone can ask for…) just took it and told me things would get better. I refused to see his logic or accept the fact that he might actually be right as I limped across our hardwood floors that kept laughing at me as I winced with every step I took. I knew he was wrong. I’d be stuck in this terrible cycle forever because that’s just what happens to people. People get stuck and then they just can’t get out of the cycle. Finally, I made it to bed and was almost instantly dead to the world.

The one positive thing that I did manage to do before I died last night was to make one last trip to the grocery store to pick up a few items for my favorite meal. Who wouldn’t look forward to bbq pork chops and basil potato wedges?! Crazy people! That’s who! So for lunch today (as I slept through breakfast) we went to the community grill on the property and decided to see if we couldn’t give it a try. It worked beautifully and luckily the meal came together with enough time for us to have a mini picnic outside by the grill for lunch where we could chat and enjoy the sunshine before I was sentenced once again to my dungeon (aka, work). For the life of me, I can’t remember exactly what we were talking about but I distinctly recall saying, “Life is a matter of perspective and there is ALWAYS another way to look at the situation.” In that same breath I realized that this could be something that Nik should have no problem throwing right back at me for the next time that I come home from work all cranky. Either way, I did go into work a little more open-minded today, for which I was rewarded.

There was a dad and his little daughter that I helped the other day at my store. He was a little on the gaunt side and looked as if the years had been beating on him quite a bit. His daughter was extremely healthy and happy though. Such a cheerful little thing. They had bought some things to get ready for Easter and the Easter Bunny. Through my conversation with him, he had told me that this year would be better as last year they had been evicted right after Easter and this year they were gearing up to do Easter all on their own. His daughter never knew they were hurting from the looks of how happy she was. That made me think and then feel really guilty. I was sitting here bitching and moaning about everything, but I have a roof over my head that isn’t going anywhere. I have food on my table that Nik and I buy and cook ourselves and it is more than just cans of beans and Top Ramen.

I am also guilty of thinking that my job is dumb on occasion. This isn’t true either. For some, this job is hope and a great start. One of my coworkers who does the same job as me but has been here longer is really happy with her job overall. She is the sweetest thing and she is new to the country. She has only been here for about a year and she is going camping for the first time next week and is so excited. She told me that all of this was a first for her, including this being her first job. She’s an all-star and rocks it. I am truly blessed to be surrounded by such good people.

I tell you those stories to tell you this. Life truly is a matter of perspective and there is always another way to look at a problem. I would like to encourage you to look at something that has been bugging you or giving you grief and look at in in a new light. Realizing the problem is not as big or demeaning as it may originally seem can be a weight off of your shoulders all on its own. If you have trouble doing this on your own, go have a good meal with a good friend and talk it out together. Everyone knows that two heads are better than one and one can essentially do nothing “if one has not dined well.”